We all have our faults, but there comes a time when a person has a destructive pattern that has to end. We have to stop making excuses for others and exercise some tough love. Essentially, we come to a point where we say to the other person that we still love them but we can't continue to enable them. Christian counselor Tim Clinton and author Pat Springle help people to learn how to say "yes when you want to and no when you need to." But more than that, we can't always fix the other person, but we can learn to control ourselves better by not seeking to please, rescue, fix or control the other person.
This book, while it has a similar topic to Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Towsend, it goes beyond just setting boundaries, but rather working on ones own self to make changes. We can't change the other parties involved, but we can change ourselves and work to stop our own destructive patterns. If I am always enabling another person, I can't stop their actions, but I can stop doing what I am doing to enable them.
This book is very relevant today and was very informative. It is filled with personal stories and situations so the reader can see how things can work. I give this book 4 stars.
I received this book from PR by the Book for the purpose of this review.